Cold and Missing: Tito J. Garcia Quintanilla - Part 1

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Welcome back everyone.

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Welcome back everyone.

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Welcome to Cold and Missing.

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If this is your first time here, I am at...no, I'm not Ali.

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I'm Eli Sulkowski, your co-host.

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And I'm Ali McLaughlin.

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So we're doing things a little bit differently this week.

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This week I had the opportunity to speak with Tito J. Garcia Quintanilla's wife.

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Her name is Faith.

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And Tito is missing and has been missing for about four months now.

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So Faith and I were able to have a discussion about their life, what Tito's like.

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She's a really incredible woman.

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She's badass.

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Like, that's the one word I could really use to describe her.

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She's really incredible.

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And I'm so excited to share this interview with you.

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So it's going to come out in two parts.

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Yeah, I'm also...I'll be...well, like everyone else usually.

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I know I learned the night before, morning before what the episode will be about.

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But yeah, I could very briefly...when I walked by the studio room, I could hear your two

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voices talking to each other.

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But that's all I really heard.

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I will learn in real time along with all of you, like all the awesome things about Tito

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that I've heard about just a little bit.

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Yeah, so the interview will come out in two episodes today.

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They are both out now as you're listening to this.

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So this is the first part of the interview.

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And then part two is obviously the second part of the interview.

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But yeah, I hope you enjoy.

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And then next week, we'll be bringing you this case again, but we'll be back to our

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regular format.

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So we'll be going through the timeline a little bit more in depth, and I'll provide some background

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information to some things that Faith and I talked about.

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But...

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Yeah, and I will probably have some questions that also come up for you listeners out there.

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So hopefully, I'll be able to ask the questions you want answers to.

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If there's anything that you're not clear about, you know.

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Yeah.

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I'm excited for that portion.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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So that will be coming out next week.

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But yeah, here's part one of my interview with Faith.

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I was just wondering if you could tell me a little bit about Tito.

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How did y'all meet?

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So we actually met in Louisiana.

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I lived really close to the coast in a town called Hackberry, Louisiana.

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And he was actually living in a town called Suffolk, Louisiana.

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And they're not actually that far apart.

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So a hurricane had come through.

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I usually remember the name, but I can't think of it right offhand right now for some reason.

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It'll hit me later or tonight sometime.

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Oh, Hurricane Rita.

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I told you.

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Hurricane Rita.

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And I had left because we were required to leave.

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I had came back to where my home was to find out that my home was there, but it had actually

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flooded over the complete top of it.

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And the water had subsided.

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So everything had been moved around and you could see on the inside where the mud line

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was.

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So everything was basically covered with mud.

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And as hurricanes do, they change trajectory.

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So it was kind of like, oh, it's not gonna hit us.

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Okay, now you've got 30 minutes to pack up your stuff and get out.

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So you're trying in a panic to remember the things that you need to leave with.

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My biggest complication was I had a horse, so I didn't want to leave him.

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So that was taking most of my time to hook a trailer up, get him into a trailer.

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Of course, Brenley was not born at this time and my other children were older and out of

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the house.

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And then I had a garage where I had stored things.

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So I had left, but when I came back, of course, I was going through things and I entered the

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garage and I had a hope chest.

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And when I looked at that hope chest, I realized that my kids' baby books were in there, their

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baby blankets, all of these things that had such important memories for me.

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So it was very overwhelming, but I opened it up, their baby books were ruined, but their

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baby blankets were full of mud.

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And I thought, maybe I can take these, maybe I can wash them and save them.

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So I had loaded those things up in the vehicle and I had drove into sulfur to a laundry mat

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and went in to try to wash these things.

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And there was a group of guys in there and they were all Hispanic and I was washing those

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things.

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And Tito was in this group.

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He didn't speak any English and I knew exactly no Spanish.

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And I'm putting things in the washing machine and he's leaning on his hand with his elbow

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on the machine.

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And he's leaning over there and he's raising his eyebrows up and down.

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At you?

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Yeah, at me and he's smiling.

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And I just look at him and I'm thinking to myself, look, I don't have time for this.

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You just need to go on about your business.

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Move along.

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I've got way too much here to deal with.

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Well, my mom and dad came down a few weeks later to try to help me sort things out.

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And of course, as things went along, we found other things that we thought we could wash

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and save.

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And of course, there he was at the laundry mat.

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And then as it went along, I kept noticing he was always at the laundry mat when I was

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at the laundry mat.

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Interesting.

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Yeah.

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And he's still always doing this little eyebrow thing.

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And my mama's like elbow and she's like, look over there, Faith.

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He's so cute.

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Look at his curly hair.

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I'm like, mama, look, I don't have a home.

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I'm living in the FEMA trailer.

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I just don't have time for this.

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My mama's like, oh, he is so cute though.

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Look at it.

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I said, mama, he probably don't speak a word of English.

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I don't have time for this.

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My mom and dad ended up leaving.

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And of course, I was still going to the laundry mat because I was buying clothes, you know,

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and I had to wash.

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He was always there.

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Always.

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Like he was living at this place.

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And I was sitting in a chair and he goes and picks up this magazine.

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And I couldn't tell you what it was, but it had women like in these fancy long dresses,

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you know, and he comes and sits by me and he opens it up and he points to this lady

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in this real fancy dress.

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And he points to me and he points to the lady in the dress and he smiles.

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And I just shook my head and started laughing.

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And I was laughing because I don't own a dress.

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I've never wore pantyhose.

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I don't wear heels.

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I mean, I rodeoed.

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Right.

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You know.

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So I have cowboys, blue jeans, wear a cowboy hat, these kinds of things.

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Well, the guy, one guy in the group spoke English.

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So he would kind of like try to help us communicate a little.

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And eventually, I mean, Tito still didn't speak much English and I didn't speak any

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Spanish, but somehow we communicated.

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I don't know how that actually worked, but I've heard other people say it also.

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So we started walking out from the laundromat, walking over to the restaurant and eating.

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And then, you know, he asked the guy to ask me to go to where they stayed to eat, you

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know, and it just progressed.

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Yeah.

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And then we were living together.

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So it was the eyebrow thing, you know.

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And then every once in a while, he would do this little quick, you know, like how they

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do that little quick kiss, like, you know.

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But he smeared that on stick.

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Let me tell you.

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Yeah.

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People say, how do you meet?

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And I said, in the laundromat.

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And he just looked at me like, that's so romantic.

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It really is.

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It's like a rom-com, you know, like that's how they all start, like these unsuspecting

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places.

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Yeah, it does.

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Can you tell me, like, what's the typical day, like with the two of you?

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When we lived here in the United States, you know, a typical day was like a typical normal

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family, you know.

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He had a job.

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I had a job.

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We had Brinley, you know.

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He was just a baby.

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He would get up, you know.

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We would all eat together.

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He would go to work, you know.

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I'd make him lunch.

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And when he was off of work, he would come home and we would have dinner together.

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Our life was good because when all of this happened, we were starting a great life, a

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great house, great furniture.

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He had a good job.

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I mean, I had a great job and was working for a great doctor.

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You know, everything was going perfectly, you know.

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Yeah.

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Until he got caught driving and got put into the detention center.

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You're building this beautiful life together in Louisiana still?

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Yes, ma'am.

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And then he gets pulled over just for like a traffic violation?

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The guy said he didn't put his blinker on.

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Right.

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Well, he called me when the policeman pulled him over.

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And I went there and met him and the policeman was telling me that he did not put his blinker

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on.

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And I can't argue with him.

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And, you know, he's like, does he have a driver's license?

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And I'm like, no, sir.

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You know.

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Does he have any papers?

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I'm like, no, sir.

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Does he have a passport?

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Yes.

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Is it a United States passport?

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No.

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And I'm like, look, please.

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Right.

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You know, please.

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I mean, we live in a small town.

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You know, just, you know, please just let him go this one time.

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He called and they put him in the local jail.

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And then, of course, they called, I guess, Border Patrol.

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I don't know who they call.

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Right.

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I guess Border Patrol.

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So I went home and waited for the phone call to know exactly where they took him.

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So once I got the call from him, I knew where he was.

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I went as soon as I could for a visitation.

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And, of course, like I said, Brenley was still very small.

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Right.

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Brenley was around a year old when we moved to Honduras.

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We talked about different things, you know.

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And I was like, look, I love you.

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I love our family.

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But we can't do this.

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You know, this is not a life for us.

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So we, I mean, I basically gave him an ultimatum.

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The ultimatum was we sell everything we have.

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We move to Honduras and find, you know, we're going to talk to an immigration lawyer before we move.

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Find out what your punishment is, and then we'll start the legal process correctly.

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Or, you know, you can try to come back over here, but we're just not going to be a family.

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I don't want our son to be coming to a detention center and think that his father is some type of horrible criminal.

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Right.

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And I don't want to be looking over my shoulder every time we do something or waiting on that call that they have caught you and you're in the detention center.

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And then we have to figure out once again, what are we going to do?

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And I don't want you trekking across countries.

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So that's basically, you know, he was deported back to Honduras, and that's when we made the decision that we were going to sell our house, our furniture, everything.

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I was quitting my job and I was breaking the news to my mother and we were moving to Honduras.

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So I called my mom and I told her what we were going to do.

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And she came down and I mean, she understood.

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You know, I was worried about her because my dad had just died.

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But my mom was like, well, if anybody can do it and live over there, it would be you.

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No one else I know.

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But I mean, it was difficult because I mean, we had this new life that we were starting.

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And now I was fixing to be jumping off into the deep end of a whole other new life.

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So, I mean, basically I sold everything.

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There was a few boxes of other things that I had kept like albums.

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My first husband had passed away while we were still married.

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So I had things from that marriage that I wanted to keep.

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So my mom boxed up a few of those things and she brought them back to Tennessee.

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I actually left with three suitcases.

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Clothes that Tito had.

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The other suitcase had clothes and a few toys for Brenley.

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And the other suitcase had my clothes.

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That was it. That's all we brought.

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Wow.

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We went to the airport and we flew out.

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And when we arrived in San Pedro Sula, Honduras, Tito was there to pick us up.

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How was it to be reunited again?

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Awesome.

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Yeah.

252
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And you?

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Because we knew we were going to be a family.

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Yeah, of course.

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There was no more worrying about that.

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And I had talked to an immigration lawyer and his punishment was supposed to be 10 years.

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That wasn't going to be so bad.

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10 years was going to go by fast.

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It was going to be perfect because Brenley would now be only 10, close to 11 years old.

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We could come back.

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Brenley would still have enough time to get a good education.

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You know, learn the things that he needed to learn.

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He would have all the things that he should have as an American.

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Have everything available to him and not be really that behind in anything.

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But have the two cultures, him get to enjoy his other culture.

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And me get to learn about where he comes from.

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I mean, it was exciting.

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You know?

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Yeah.

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The best thing for me was we were going to be a family.

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I was going to get to be a part of his family.

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You all lived in Honduras for 10 years, right?

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13.

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How?

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Close to 13.

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Yeah.

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How was living in Honduras for those 13 years?

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There were a lot of difficult times.

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And it wasn't because of our marriage or us being a family unit.

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It was difficult because it was like being thrown back in the Western time,

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but having some times like living here.

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Yeah.

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It was interesting because there was a lot of things that were so different.

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When we got there, we stayed with his mother at first.

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She has a two-room house.

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Tito's family is very, very poor.

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He has 11 brothers and sisters.

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She has one room with I don't know how many beds are in there,

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but that's where everyone sleeps.

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And then she has another room.

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It's where she cooks, where the fire is and everything.

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There's no indoor bathroom, no indoor shower.

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There's just pitless with water.

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Water only comes every three days.

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To be honest, I was thinking I wasn't embarrassed for him or anything like that.

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My feelings did not change because he was poor.

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I just didn't want my face to show shock.

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Yeah.

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I didn't want him to feel bad about the situation that he lived in.

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But I was just thinking there's no washer, there's no dryer,

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there's no hot water, there's no shower.

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Where do I brush my teeth?

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Where am I supposed to go to the bathroom?

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I mean, there was like all these questions just whirling around in my head.

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But we stayed there for a couple of weeks,

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and it was really hard because I still didn't know very much

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Spanish because Tito had learned English.

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So we were communicating that way.

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And I just kind of muddled through the things.

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He helped me.

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Baby, look, this is where we brush our teeth.

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This is how the toilet thing works outside.

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It was very strenuous and it was very shocking.

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So we kind of tried to figure out where we were going to stay,

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what we were going to do.

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And we thought, well, we'll go to one of the bigger cities

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because I would be able to find a job,

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probably doing something because I speak English.

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We moved close to the ocean in rainy season and found out that it floods.

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Bad.

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We were in an apartment, and we would have to park like six blocks away,

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and we would have to carry stuff on our head.

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And the water would be up to our hips.

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Wow.

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And I told him, I said, I love you, but this is not going to work for me.

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So we decided to go back to where his mom was.

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And I said, look, I said, we just need to make a decision.

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We're going to be here for 10 years.

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We're going to have to get some kind of stability for Brenley and me and you.

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And we built ourselves a little two-bedroom, two-bathroom house there.

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And one of his brothers helped us on and off a little bit.

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And we bought a truck, and we bought a motorcycle, and we bought a dog.

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And we had our home there.

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Yeah.

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And it's still there.

336
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We still have it.

337
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My brother-in-law feeds our dogs since Tito's not there.

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You know, when he decided to come over here, it's my home.

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I call it my home as well as I call this my home.

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Of course.

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You know, I mean, the first year I probably cried a whole lot.

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The second year wasn't as bad.

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As each year passed, things got easier.

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You know, I was homesick a lot at first.

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It was just different things, you know.

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I felt stupid, you know, because I didn't know how to wash clothes.

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You know, I didn't know how to cook on a fire.

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There was all these little bitty things that I didn't understand how to do.

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You know, like, you don't have, like, just a big grocery store there.

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You have to go to the market.

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You have to go to the market.

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You got to go to this other shop to buy a tube of toothpaste.

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And then you got to walk another block to find, you know, a roll of toilet paper.

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Right.

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I mean, you know, there was just a, there was a lot of differences.

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But once, you know, once you were used to them, it was fine.

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You know, first the people called me, you know, the lady that couldn't get,

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couldn't marry an American.

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You know.

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Then I was like, the lady married to the Honduran.

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And then I was the lady with the white kid.

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You know.

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And then finally I was just, I was a, what I ended up doing was I taught

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English to first graders.

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Oh, beautiful.

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That's what I did as my profession there.

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And of course I made really good money.

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And for Tito to work, it was like $5 for 12 hours of working.

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Wow.

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And I was like, you're just not doing this.

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I mean, this is crazy.

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You're not going to work yourself to death.

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So, you know, I would tell him, I say, look, you go help your mom with

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whatever she needs.

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You know, like if she needs to have something done to the house, you can do

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those things to help her.

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I called him McGyver.

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You know.

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I mean, I would tell him like you could give him a toilet paper roll and he

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could turn it into like a rocket.

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You know the booster seats that kids sit in?

382
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Yes.

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So one day in the hammock on the porch and I can see him and my son over

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there between like we have a little area that we had, we had a goat and we

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locked it up at night in a little area.

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And I see him and my son over there.

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And they've got a piece of rope and I'm thinking, oh my God, what are they

388
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doing now?

389
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Because they were always doing something.

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Yeah.

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And I look over there and he has this booster seat and he has rigged it up

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with rope and I don't know what other kind of junk he had.

393
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And he has made him between that and the tree that's halfway across our

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yard, a zip line.

395
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Oh.

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He takes and pushes him and he just slides down this thing.

397
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He's like five.

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And he has made him a zip line.

399
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And they zip line all day long.

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I'm sure he, I can imagine being five and like having my own zip line.

401
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Like that sounds so much fun.

402
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:25,760
Yeah.

403
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He made him an indoor pool.

404
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:31,760
He built like this little thing, got a bamboo and put a little made, you

405
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know, the leaf that they use over there to the roof.

406
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And we had gone to San Pedro Sula to visit family and they had one of those

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little like blow up pools made out of plastic.

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He takes that, he puts it in there and he goes to the river because, you

409
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know, we only get water every three days.

410
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Right.

411
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And he's made all these jugs and pours water in there and he's made him an

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indoor pool.

413
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Wow.

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Wow.

415
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Incredible.

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I mean, that's just the type of man that he is.

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Yeah.

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You know.

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I see some kind of flower his mama has.

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I come back and he's dug up this big old section and he's like put center

421
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blocks around it so our dog, Orange, don't get in there and dig it up.

422
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And he's made me a whole little flower area.

423
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Oh, that's so fun.

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I mean, it wasn't a money thing.

425
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It was just like doing things, you know, that made you happy.

426
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Yeah.

427
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It was like, you know, the love languages.

428
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Like he was always showing like his love through like gifts and service and

429
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things like that.

430
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Right.

431
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Because he never had money.

432
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,760
That was how he did things.

433
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:56,760
Wow.

434
00:26:56,760 --> 00:27:00,760
You know, he would say like at my birthday, baby, I'm not got nothing.

435
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I said, yeah, you do.

436
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:04,760
You got a lot to give me.

437
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:05,760
Yeah.

438
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:06,760
You know.

439
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:07,760
Wow.

440
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:08,760
Wow.

441
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Yeah, I can tell by these stories how much he loves you and he loves your

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son.

443
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Like that's so beautiful.

444
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Wow.

445
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Thank you so much for sharing those stories.

446
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:28,760
So that's part one of the interview with Faith.

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I hope you are coming to love Tito as much as I have through her stories.

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She's a great storyteller.

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Part two is out now.

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So go ahead.

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Keep listening.

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It'll just roll on in.

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Let's do it.

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So just keep going.

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I'm listening with y'all.

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So let's go.

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Yeah.

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If you follow us on Instagram, we're going to be posting lots of photos of Tito

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So yeah, make sure you're following us there and enjoy part two that's coming

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up here now.